time to bleed.

28 Sep

watch this.

navy-SEAL-turned-WWF-wrestler-turned-actor-turned-minnesota-governor jesse ventura is quoted in perhaps the most macho movie line of all time, ‘i ain’t got time to bleed.’

i remember the first time i saw the movie ‘predator’ and heard the now famous line as a 13 year old boy.  i thought, ‘i ain’t got time to bleed.  wow.  that’s so manly. i ain’t got time to bleed.  so tough. so cool.’

so stupid.

wounds bleed.

when we’re hurt, we bleed.  often times, our temptation is to try to cover up our wound – to put something on it to ease the pain.  to self-medicate.  to wrap it up.  to make it look and feel ‘normal.’

i am hurt.  i am wounded.  i am, even now, bleeding.

we bleed when we’re rejected.  when we’re told we’re not good enough.  when we’re left alone, and given up on by those we love, and by those whose love we seek in return.

to pretend that we’re not wounded by these things is an exercise in futility.  and nobody is fooled – we’re betrayed by the trail of ‘blood’ that we leave, exposing the true nature of our emotional state.  it comes out in our conversation, in our decisions, in our forced laughter, and in our tears.

ignoring the pain won’t make it get better, and it won’t make it go away.  instead, allow those closest to you to see your pain and hear your hurt.  when we’re wounded, instead of rushing to re-enter a state of normalcy, we need to create time and space to bleed, and to heal.   

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2 Responses to “time to bleed.”

  1. Tyler Helfers September 28, 2011 at 9:14 PM #

    “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven,” including a “time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh…(Eccl. 3:1,3-4)”

    I think a huge part of not taking the time to address our pain and our struggles is the belief that as Christians we’re supposed to “have it all together” and “be happy.” Yet, the opposite is true: We don’t have it together. We depend on the grace of God. You’re right, we need to address it and allow others to enter into it with us. And hopefully, in the end, it will drive us deeper in communion with God and enable us to treasure the Gospel even more.

    If it is any encouragement to anyone else who might read this, I oftentimes remember 2 Cor. 4:7-18.

    Thanks for the post, Michael.

  2. Da Grizz September 29, 2011 at 8:27 AM #

    Great post. This is something that I have been trying to deal with a lot lately.

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