miriam webster defines surrender this way :
1 a : to yield to the power, control, or possession of another upon compulsion or demand <surrendered the fort>
b : to give up completely or agree to forgo especially in favor of another
examples of surrender
• The enemy finally surrendered after three days of fighting
• The gunman surrendered and was taken into custody.
• The troops were forced to surrender the fort.
interestingly, none of these examples are positive. by definition, the implication is that no one would willingly seek out the opportunity to surrender. it’s essentially admitting defeat.
surrender = defeat.
when we surrender, we admit that we’re not good enough…we can’t keep fighting against a better force. we’re not strong enough…we can’t overcome the opposition. we’re not smart enough…we can’t find another way ‘out’. we have to give up. we are defeated.